Have you ever heard the expression, “a zero-sum game?” In economic theory, it says, “as one gains, another loses the same
amount.” As an example, if you have
a whole pie and someone takes a piece of it, you lose the same amount of pie
that the other person gained. The amount
you lost added to the amount the other person gained will equal the whole, so
one person cannot gain without the other person losing. It is a win-lose situation.
As a mom with two boys only 17 months apart, I had a full
time job trying to make sure things were equal and one didn’t get more candy,
gifts, attention, etc. than the other. I
did not want their life to feel like a “zero-sum game.” I finally realized that there were times when
one had a greater need than the other and fulfilling that need at the necessary
time did not take away from the one who had no pressing needs. If one came in with a bloody nose, I didn’t
grab a wet cloth for both to staunch the bleeding, so that the uninjured child
wouldn’t feel neglected. No, I tended to
the injured child until the bleeding was stopped and he was ready to play
again. How useless it would have been
for me to have blessed my children with identical gifts, as they grew. They had
different needs, abilities, interests and levels of maturity and it was
reflected in my blessings to them.
God blesses His children as they have need and according to
their abilities and level of maturity, yet sometime we get the attitude that
God is playing a “Zero-Sum Game.” Materially,
why would God bless me with a different car when I have a brand new car sitting
in the garage? Yet, there are times when
we find it hard to rejoice with a brother or sister when they receive a
material blessing that is better or newer the thing we own. For years, I looked with longing as people
seemed to be blessed spiritually and I was, seemingly, “left behind.” It seemed
that ministry, especially, was a “zero-sum game.” Every time a brother or sister was used in
ministry, was promoted to a position or asked to fulfill a need that I had
dreamed of, I assumed my chances had diminished. Passed over time after time, I
fretted and fussed, convincing myself that soon there would be nothing of value
left for me to accomplish. Finally, God
allowed me to experience one of the coveted “blessings.” I fell flat on my face and I received an
eye-opening revelation; YOUR BLESSINGS DO NOT DIMINISH GOD’S
BLESSINGS FOR ME.
As the years have passed and I have matured, I have learned
to be content. The desire to be used in
God’s service has not waned but I have learned to be content with allowing God
to work through me as HE WILLS. I can rejoice as I take a ride in a friend’s
shiny new car because God is good, not just to me but to all who trust Him.
When a sister is asked to speak at a meeting, I listen with enthusiasm,
realizing that I was not “passed over”
but needed to hear from God through this sister. I follow my life from the beginning until
this very moment and I realize that if the blessings of God turned out to be
some “Cosmic
Zero-Sum Game,” I would be declared the winner!!! I have been blessed throughout my life with
all that I could handle and more than I deserved. There is even times that the Creator of the
Universe; the Savior of the World actually allows me to reach out and bless
another precious brother or sister. Can
it get any better? I think I have
received the BIGGEST PIECE OF THE PIE in this game called Life.